Marc writes: Our 8-year-old, Philip, received several Lego sets for his birthday. I think Lego sets should be kept together for future re-creation. My wife, Jess,66jogo thinks all the Legos should be dumped together in a bin. Who’s right?

Maybe Jess is one of those people who think following instructions to build a big Yoda to stare at you judgmentally from a shelf for a dozen years is less “creative” than the bashing of bricks together at random before losing them under the radiator. Or maybe she doesn’t want the trouble of sorting all the Legos into little boxes. Either way, you stand on opposite sides of the great divide between Lego Chaos and Lego Order, and it would tear you both apart if it weren’t for this good news: These aren’t your toys. Watch how Philip plays with them. See which way he bends — toward the fantasia of open playmkgggg, or the different but equally valid delight of following structure — and follow his lead. You can get a big Yoda for yourself. That will save your marriage.